#WhoThisIsFor

Welcome to afishoutofwater.blog

To my fellow travelers, the quietly unraveling, the beautifully undone—this space was made with you in mind.

You know who this is for?

It’s for the one quietly unraveling in a world that only rewards certainty. The one who feels like they lost the map, only to discover it never quite fit them to begin with.

It’s for those healing from inherited faith— beliefs handed down in fear, control, or love so conditional it left splinters in the soul. It’s for those carrying wounds wrapped in Bible verses, wondering if grace still counts after you’ve questioned everything you once called sacred.

It’s for the person who did all the “right things”— checked all the right boxes, performed all the right roles— and still felt off-script.

It’s for the dreamers, the doubters, the deeply tender-hearted ones who learned to armor up just to get through Sunday morning. The ones who wonder if maybe their becoming is actually just a more dignified collapse.

It’s for the threshold-walkers. The ones with one foot in a story they’ve outgrown and the other in a truth that doesn’t yet have a name.

It’s for the you reading this right now.

You who are still becoming. You who are still uncertain. You who are still undone—and yet more whole than you’ve ever been.

This isn’t a roadmap. It’s not a theology. It’s a remembering.

An invitation to lay down the mask, the striving, the shame— and come home to the you that was never lost. Just buried. Just waiting.

---

Imagine yourself as both a drop of water and the vast ocean itself. That’s the contradiction we live in – boundless spirit trapped in a limited human body. Regardless of your current experience and circumstances, your real essence and identity is not the image staring back at you in the mirror.

The thoughts, beliefs, fears, perceptions, values, preferences and tendencies that make up your self-image and ‘internal world’; whilst very real in your lived experience, actually lack any substance that could stand the test of objective reality.
Nevertheless, many of us are held captive under the hypnotic power of self-image and the internal world of our thoughts.

We are truly lost, like fish out of water, longing for the place where we truly belong. Yet we are on a journey home, a return to the Light from which we came. It’s our destiny. That inner knowing brought me here.

A bewildered observer and reluctant participant in life, I found comfort very early on in a childlike (naive?) faith in God and in the religion inherited from my practicing Catholic parents. This faith became the anchor in the often-confusing currents of existence.

Like most, I sometimes struggle living with the ‘contradiction’ that we each are – divine essence in human form. But I share, I write because I have become fully persuaded of this journey, and of the One that whispers in my heart and draws me back home to my real essence and identity in Him.

Home is where God is, a place of pure clarity and boundless peace. I’m still seeking, but along the way, I’m leaving behind markers – the writings on this blog. These posts chart my insights, hopes, and struggles. They’re also an invitation for fellow travelers to share your own experiences on this journey.

I’m not an expert, just a sharer. Maybe what I learn can help light your way too. Explore the blog and discover if my words resonate with your own quest for home.